12 MAY 2001, Page 63

Q. I have recently become engaged and, after the initial

irritation, have become complacent with regard to the endless questioning about the form of my forthcoming wedding this summer. My parents are being extremely generous, and my fiancé and I are lucky enough to be able to invite a large number of our very wide circle of friends. As I am now compiling my invitation list. I do recall that some of the people in my address book have, over the last few weeks, been saying, 'See you on the day!', while I have no intention of

inviting them. How should I explain that they are not invited when there is clearly no restriction on numbers; and what, indeed, is one supposed to say when an enthusiastic acquaintance makes such assumptions?

TS., London W8