31 MAY 2003, Page 63

Q. Some months ago I discovered that my husband was

having an affair. Since that moment various friends and au pairs have come forward with evidence of other affairs, which have been going on during the 20-year course of our marriage. We have four children. Now he wants to come back. How can I trust him again?

Name and address withheld A. You should let him come back, but why try to trust him? Instead, take a tip from Lady Archer who, along with various other high-profile wives, have found it genuinely convenient not to have her husband's demanding persona manifest at all times.