Q. I am a single woman, although I do not
wish to be. I am told that I have a lot going for me, but all the men at the office are married and I am too old, at 32, to meet men in nightclubs. None of my friends knows any fanciable single men to invite to dinner parties or, if they do, those men are in such demand they are hardly ever free. Please help, Mary.
Name and address withheld A. Suitor-seekers must be proactive and not wait passively for their princes to come. Romance still springs, as it has always done, out of shared references and connections. A 1950s agony aunt would advise you to join a club or go to evening classes, and the same applies today. One 39-year-old raving beauty was partnerless until she joined the Chelsea Gardening Club where she met her highly desirable husband. A 58-year-old met her amusing, 48-year-old social-worker partner when she taught him at night school. A 32-yearold painter began her recent passionate affair when she took a space in another artist’s studio. Advertise for a lodger — kind Polish builders and handsome Afghan doctors can be a better bet than a conceited Englishman who has no incentive to shed his single status. Finally, speed-dating is no longer the nerdothon it once was. One 36-year-old top-of-the-range spinster has just had her first baby, having met her husband speed-dating in Cornwall.
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