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Q. We are having to open our house up to

the public for a certain number of days per year. My wife and I are in dispute over whether the necessary facilities should be signposted as ‘Toilets’ or ‘Lavatories’. I personally do not wish to have to see the word ‘Toilets’ on my property but she says it would be pretentious/passive aggressive to call them ‘Lavatories’, since ‘Toilets’ is the word by which most punters will know them. Can you rule on this, Mary?

Name and address withheld A. Why not take a tip from the longestablished taste-broker Desmond MacCarthy, who has opened, for the summer months, a café within the walls of his Jacobean Wiveton Hall near Holt in North Norfolk. Here is dispensed produce grown on the home farm, such as asparagus with hollandaise and strawberry and mascarpone tart. The natural setting is flawless, as is all interference by human hand. MacCarthy has chosen to label the necessary facilities ‘Washroom’.