9 FEBRUARY 2002, Page 67

Q. My (new) wife tells me that it is my

duty, as a godfather, to send Valentine cards to my various teenage god-daughters. Do you agree with me that this is faintly pervy?

Name and address withheld A. Clearly, your wife has failed to impress on you the key detail that the girls should have no idea that the cards have come from you. Have somebody else address and sign them with a simple questionmark, and you will set their imaginations free to fantasise that they are in receipt of a compliment from some dazzlingly attractive youth from their own peer group. This will enable them to emit that winning glow of inner confidence. It is fair to say that morale-boosting is indeed part of a godfather's duty; and may I take this opportunity to remind readers that there are those among even their fully adult friends who would welcome such an anonymous tribute.

Mary Killen

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