15 MARCH 2008, Page 87

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Dear Mary

Q. Somewhat fortuitously I was recently a guest of an eminent London picture dealer in an excellent restaurant in the West End. Among the assembled were various racehorse owners and trainers. I happened to be sitting next to a lord whose family are members of the Beerage. I could not help but notice that the said peer had a monogram of his title with coronet above, embroidered on his shirt. Due to his ample bosom this was very obvious. Do you consider this correct or is it rather parvenu, Mary?

W.M., Stonegrave, York A. Monogrammed shirts are not quite so bad as personalised number plates. Monogrammed slippers are acceptable if worn at home because they are slightly jokey. Equally, boxes of matches with coronets are fine inside the home. The Earls of Sandwich kept, for many years, a caravan on the Isle of Wight with their coat of arms emblazoned on the door — also as a joke — but the general rule is that drawing attention to one’s rank or riches in public is never acceptable. So the peer in question has committed a faux pas.