YOUR PROBLEMS SOLVED Dear Mary
Q. Let me offer a variant on your wet towel advice (21 May). My partner and I were married for more than 60 years between us, but not to each other, so we came to this new and lovely relationship with many years’ experience of how not to do things. It became apparent early on that I was now living with a habitual towel-dropper, which in the past would have caused friction. One lesson we have both learnt is to look for jolly opportunities to communicate feelings of love and care. Towel-dropping provided one. Our arrangement is that I insist on picking it up for her every day as a silent statement of love. On the occasions I forget, the towel is offered to me with a quizzical look or occasionally hung up with a theatrical, long-suffering sigh, both of which are huge improvements on simmering resentment or damp towels.
Name and address withheld A. Thank you for this insight into a happy relationship. Readers may wish to take a tip from you and convert their own irritations into sources of happiness using the same method.
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