Q. I recently became involved with someone who is 15
years younger than I am. She is very beautiful and very charming but one thing is putting me quite seriously off her. Perhaps you could advise. I realise that her generation — early-twentysomethings — do do a lot of texting but we see each other about four nights per week and yet I am getting about ten texts a day from her. The content is almost always totally fatuous. I rarely reply to them but they keep coming in. I have told her that I am a busy man and these constant interruptions are making me feel slightly hounded but she just giggles and says she loves me so much she wants to share all her thoughts with me. How can I — without seeming pompous — let her see that for someone of my generation (fortysomething) this kind of thing is not just irritating. It is also something of a turn-off.
E.B., London NW5 A. Get a new cheap pay-as-you-go telephone and give your girlfriend the number explaining that you have mislaid your usual mobile. Leave the new mobile, switched off, down the back of a chair in her house. After a day ring up saying you have lost your new mobile as well but think it may be down the back of that chair. You are expecting an urgent text. Could she look through your inbox and see if it has arrived. As ten messages from her scroll down, ask her to read out each one — ‘in case it is something important that you may forget to tell me’. With her having been confronted this way with the full extent of her fatuousness, you will soon see an end to the nuisance.
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