30 OCTOBER 2004, Page 40

From Charlotte Houston Sir: I have just read your leading

article on the Internet. Without exception these were exactly my feelings when I originally heard of the horrific murder of Mr Bigley. You are correct — the people of the United Kingdom, since the death of Diana, Princess of Wales, have become totally hooked on grief for people they do not know personally.

For the past ten years I have lived in a rural part of South Africa where death from HIV/Aids is a daily occurrence, sometimes in the most horrific and degrading manner. The grief displayed by friends and relatives is dignified. The poverty around us is daunting and yet these people have pride and find solace in grace and humour. These attributes seem to be sadly lacking in the UK public nowadays — possibly due to the welfare state. The 'nanny society' has not done anyone any favours.

Charlotte Houston

Kwazulu-Natal, South Africa