21 JUNE 2008, Page 71

Q. What is the correct term for a woman who

has one to dinner or to stay? I always feel uneasy when referring to someone as my ‘hostess’. It seems such a naff word. What is the answer?

H.B., London W11

A. You have probably been confused by hearing people talk about air hostesses and hostess trolleys. ‘Hostess’ is the correct word to describe someone who is giving you hospitality but the emphasis must be on the first syllable — hostess.

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